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Sex is not as important as spending quality time and experiencing life together. Try to stay physical with your spouse, but realize there is more to life than sex.
_ Sandy, Washington, D.C., married three years
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I've always thought that sex is important. But it has become a tricky thing these past couple years. It takes me a lot longer to get in the mood nowadays. I don't think it's the curse of marriage. I'm assuming it could just be due to stress. Whatever the cause, I'm not as "hot to go" as I used to be. Of course, my husband is always hot to go. I know that it's important that I make the effort to stay in touch with my sexuality, not just for my own fulfillment, but for my relationship with my husband, too. I still think he's incredibly sexy and I love him more now than I ever have.
_ S., Boca Raton, Fla., married two years
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Just remember that you can have great sex with anyone. But you can only have the total package with one person.
_ G., Ann Arbor, Mich., married for two years
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My husband and I watch porn. It gets us going. Every time we go to a hotel, we check to make sure they have those adult movies. Then we take care of the rest.
_ Sarah, Atlanta, Ga., married six years
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Men, read this ... Always pretend that everything your wife is wearing is new, even though you have seen it 30 times before. It makes her feel good.
_ Bill W., Seattle, Wash., married 33 years
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Washing dishes and doing laundry is foreplay. Forget about going out and buying dinner. It's the housework that counts -- especially if you're the one that works and your wife stays at home with the kids. Do you want that hot vixen you first fell for? Do the dishes. Vacuum. The next morning, cook her breakfast. Leave her a note telling her how beautiful she is. Call her from work and tell her how you can't stop thinking about her. Cook dinner. Put the kids to bed early. Draw her a bath. Then light some candles. Put on some soft music. Help her dry off, lead her to the bedroom. The payoff will be great.
_ Anonymous, Syracuse, N.Y., married five years
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When on a date with your spouse, stay positive. This is not the time to tell your mate what he or she has done wrong in the past ten years.
_ Lovegevity.com
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